Is It really necessary for teachers to have boundaries?
After all we are coming each week to love on the kids and make happy memories, especially if you have kids that come from disadvantaged backgrounds and don’t get much attention never mind much of anything.
Yes that is so, but sometimes we as teachers might have good intentions, but it is not always helpful for them in the long run.
We ultimately have to have balance in anyone of our classes.
First we are there to teach the word of God. Many children don’t have parents or guardians that ever teach biblical principles like right from wrong, truth from lies, or even good from evil or general morals like please and thank you.
Parents with no boundaries vs boundaries for teachers
It is horrific to see how children copy their parents behavour by imitating their parents, the social media sites are rampant with children swearing and using the “F” word and it’s oh so cute.
Many children grow up with whatever their surroundings dictate and that becomes their truth.
While you as a teacher might feel sorry for them, you must realize that it is not what they need. They need to learn the truth, need to be taught right from wrong and need to be taught that life is not always fair.
Children are always resilient, but in our modern society, many parents would rather be friends with their kids than discipline their kids and you often find children from an early age decide whether they want to go to church or not, Even deciding whether they want to go to school or not. Parents would rather give in to their kids than have an argument.
A very sad thing to see is parents bow down to the whims of the children. Many parents don’t set the boundaries, they allow the kids to set the boundaries for themselves.
It is difficult as a teacher to teach children who rebel against any authority, however when there are boundaries, children thrive, they know what to expect and they know what is expected of them.
While there are many different personality types, it should still not allow children to run rampant and cause chaos in your classroom. Setting boundaries could be the lifeline to creating a great environment that children will want to come back week after week.
Remember setting boundaries does not mean no fun, in fact you can still teach the word of God in a lot of fun ways.
Boundaries in your children’s ministry classroom
When it comes to the children’s ministry classroom, we as teachers cannot smack or discipline a child for bad behaviour, however what we can do is in still boundaries that we expect teachers, children and parents to adhere in order to make it a safe and happy environment for kids to come each week..
It is important to have boundaries for your teachers.
Children need to know what is allowed and what will not be allowed, such as hitting, biting swearing, disrespect for teachers and their peers.
By setting boundaries that each and every teacher will follow, it will create a safe and happy place for all who enter your classroom.
One thing that always baffles me when you walk into some children’s ministry classrooms, is that you will find teachers with kids of 5 & 6 years on their hips and kids hanging on to their teachers necks for dear life.
We know you love kids!!, but please teachers & helpers bear in mind that when you are not on duty, it puts so much pressure on the other teachers to have kids sitting on their laps and hanging on their necks.
Understandably If the child is not crying or sick, then it is not necessary for the child to act like a toddler??
Yes we understand that children like their teachers.
Remember you will get more respect from that child if he or she knows the teachers boundaries,.
Be friendly, be compassionate & loving, but the child must know that you are their teacher that loves and cares for them greatly, but not a jungle jim that they can climb all over you.
You are older than them and they must respect you for who you are and the task you have been given.
If you are hanging on to one child, you are ineffective to help the others.
Just stop to think if you are doing more harm than good.
When the child eventually goes to “Big” school, the teacher does not have the amount of volunteers to help her with children hanging on to her.
If you baby the 4 – 6 year old, then it just puts so much pressure on other teachers to now carry children around while she is trying to teach, or pour juice, or talk to a parent.
They must learn to sit at a table or in the group and play while the teacher is busy and that you will be there for them if they need you.
Please think about what you are doing. Set boundaries, and your classroom will be a much happier environment in the long run.
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